Becoming

Our unique personality is a curious thing and is part and parcel of our identity.  We don’t create either our identity or our personality though many people have the illusion that they do.  Rather, our real experience of self is more one of discovering who we are through life events, relationships, victories and defeats, losses, etc., and our reactions to them.  Much of what we come to know about ourselves has much more the nature of uncovering and unfolding rather than creating.  Of course, we have some influence over who we are and are becoming, but to a limited degree.  Consciousness can become the critical factor, particularly for our behaviors and values.